I've been putting myself out there on the online dating sites since 2004. It seems to be the only way to meet someone these days. It's very frustrating though. It seems as though many of the men on these sites just want to play games. They play with your heart a little while and then cut you loose. The men who email me and pursue me online are rarely ever men I would consider being with and the ones I would want to pursue me rarely ever do. I keep wondering if I will ever meet the right man for me. If not online, where?

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Married in 1987 - Divorced in 1999
3 children - Oliver(11) Lydia(12) Spencer(14)*
*Has cerebral palsy
Psalm 34:18 - The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart

Hi Rhonda,
I had signed up with christiancafe.com and...like you, the ones I were interested in had no interest in me and visa versa. One guy called me....and a big red flag came up when he said he was still "sort of" married. Sort of married? Yikes.

I gave up looking and focused on my children and my walk with God. As I healed from the divorce, I became more active in my church. I went tremendously out of my comfort zone and joined the drama ministry. That was where I met Jim.

I know there are many success stories with the online dating sites, but be careful and have your red-flag-o-meter out and ready to go.
Above everything, give it all to Jesus.

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Lisa D
age 40; Married 1991, Divorced 2000; moved from TX to OH/WV; Remarried 2003; 2 children, ages 12 & 13; 2 stepsons, ages 20 & 25; 2 weenie dogs, 3 hamsters, 1 betta fish

Dating site are a mixed bag. i can agree it's really hard to meet people these days. I know for us as I have discussion in other forums my kids and I have had a lot trouble finding a place to fit at church. So it wasn't easy to meetinto other single parents like you did with Jim at church.

What I found weird is the few single ministires events I attends (speficially for singles) was reallya big downer. Everyone had been hurt alot and were guarded. Or they were a clique because they had been in bible study together a long time and new people had a hard breaking in. Or one place I went last fall the people were pretty nice but itwas just not upbeat at all. Some people were cutting themselves down or they just didn't talk much. It was really depressing.

Oh... then I went to secular hiking club locally. Super active. I like to hike but man these folks were speed demons and I walked for 6 miles. I thought I would die - literally -- I am not in that kind of shape yet. Anyway, I noticed these couple of gusy who would float up and down the pack of women talking to this one and that, quizzing them on their likes. It was actually pretty funny and made online dating look good.

At this piont I am kinda where you were - just focusing on my walk with God. I would like to meet someone but it may not be the right time and that is ok...

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Elaine