Hey all. I've been lurking about a bit, reading posts and clicking links. I am in the beginning stages of a divorce, and your site has been most comforting to me. (I especially like the page about Death Without Casseroles). LOL

I am 38 years old, been married a year, this time, though we lived together for two, and knew each other for 6 before that. I shoulda known better. I did know better. Still and all, here I am today getting ready to start packing.

I have a 19 year old son (my only child that lives with me) and he has Down's Syndrome. I absolutely adore him with all my heart...and I'm scared to think what this new upheaval will be to him.

I'm tired of starting over.
I'm tired.
But as it was stated on the 360* page, I am going to have to quit with the naps at some point and DEAL with this.
So today I am going to see about getting boxes; getting started on my new life, as my old one is ending.

Thanks for being here.
Rebecca

Hi Rebecca,
I'm sorry you are going through this. The beginning stages are, in my opinon, the worst....it does get better eventually.

(((hugs)))

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Lisa D
age 40; Married 1991, Divorced 2000; moved from TX to OH/WV; Remarried 2003; 2 children, ages 12 & 13; 2 stepsons, ages 20 & 25; 2 weenie dogs, 3 hamsters, 1 betta fish

Welcome, Rebecca,

This is definitely the place for sanity and support. We can't help you pack, but we can be there for you to listen, to care and to love.

Blessings to you and your son.

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married 30 years; daughter #1 + grandson;
daughter #2 + granddaughter; 1 big dog; various cats

I'd rather be at the beach

Rebecca,

Yay for your courage to face it head on and begin "dealing and healing." I'm so glad you found a home with us! These ladies are awesome for support and love, and it's just so comforting to know someone UNDERSTANDS.

About the upheaval in your son's life - I totally understand your concern. I read something somewhere that it's a Mom who makes it "home." Just be there for him, be constant in YOU, and he will find his consistency there.

Also, if there are any things that were constants in his home that can also show up in his new home, that will help. In the Little House on the Prairie books, when Laura gets married, her Ma sends some things home with Almanzo to make the place "like home" to her. I remember specifically mention of a tablecloth that was always on her ma's table, and now appeared on her own.

It's the little things... and especially the presence of Mom... that make it home. It's constancy. Seeing the expected. No matter which four walls those things happen to reside in.

Yeah. The Death without Casseroles was a good one, huh? There's lots of great stuff on here!

Cheryl

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Cheryl

Married twice, divorced twice, same guy.
No kids; two dogs who THINK they're kids.
Getting close to reaching my "new life" but not quite there yet.