I was divorced in Nov 2007 after my husband of 33yrs told me last July he wasn't happy and wanted out. I had been thru something very similar at our 15yrs point during his military career. He had wanted out then also. He filed for a divorce & received it very shortly after it was filed.
He told me within a short time after that act that he had made a mistake & that he loved me and wanted to get remarried, so we did. He even asked me to forgive him, and I though he was sincere. With three young children and the fact that I loved him very much, I remarried him.

I have felt numb and very hurt these past mths. It's bad that it occured once, but now a second time.

Within one month after the divorce in Nov 2007, I found out he was going out with someone at work. We both work for the same employer just work in different areas and different hours. Within 3mths after the divorce, he moved in with her. All I ever heard was "nothing happened between us before the divorce".

I am blaming myself for letting it happen twice. I am also blaming myself because I never saw it coming the second time. I am angry that this man now has someone else to share his life with. I feel both rejection, loss, and bitterness. I just want to learn to rest in God with confidence and let him handle everything.

Hi, Phyllis,

The blame and the anger are both normal reactions; but you have nothing to blame yourself for - he did the leaving (both times!) As for the anger, it is something we all need to work through.

Do you have anyone locally to talk to? A good church group?

How are the kids holding up?

We are here to listen, though if you want more sharing and more immediate response, I would recommend the group (e-mail) site.

Either way, feel free to share, vent, laugh, cry, and even be angry.

God is there for you and we are too.

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married 30 years; daughter #1 + grandson;
daughter #2 + granddaughter; 1 big dog; various cats

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