Ok girls,
I went to see the lawyer on Valentines Day ( ironic hey) ( did I mention before, also my anniversary 15 years)
Anyway, this was the second attorney I saw. I decided to follow her advise and file for divorce and stop waiting for him.
Now my question is do I tell him that I filed or do I let him find out when he is "served"?
I am torn. He has never been physical with me but he is very angry that I saw another lawyer. Saying he will stop working to make sure I don't receive any money or help.
His family has their heads in the sand and mine are cowards. I do have a appointment with my pastor but that will be late next week.
Thanks for any ideas
Ronni

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still married/almost 15 yr.
2 kids 10 & 8/ both girls.
1 dog/lab

I think I need more details to form an opinion. If he is living with you, you probably should tell him (if you think it is safe.) If you are separated, I think I would wait until he's served.

Mostly, I think I would wait until I had talked to the pastor, especially if you are both members of the church.

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married 30 years; daughter #1 + grandson;
daughter #2 + granddaughter; 1 big dog; various cats

I'd rather be at the beach

Yes, we are still living in the same house. He has wanted me to leave for 6 months now.
We are both members of the church...he hasn't been there in a year and wasn't involved when he did go.
I feel like I should tell him because I would want to know if the situation was reversed.
This is what he has wanted for the past 8 years so I don't know why I am so shaky about telling him.

Ronni

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still married/almost 15 yr.
2 kids 10 & 8/ both girls.
1 dog/lab

Hi,

I am kind off in a similair situation.

Except mine isn't mean he just doesn't show any concern for me. I moved out two years ago. He hasn't said a word about us.

I know that he will never initiate divorce just like he never initiated anything else.

I also suggest that you wait to talk to your pastor. Hopefully he can bring you two together and find a resolution.

I don't know the whole situation but, it sounds like he is very angry and needs separation to think things over?

Hello All,
Just a quick updat and a request for prayer in the coming days.
I have filed for divorce against his threats of fighting me every step of the way if I did. See he wanted a dissolution. He wanted to say how much he would pay and what I would get. The first court date is April 30 then May 21st. I ask that you pray for God's protection and provision for me and the kids.
I have been suffering anxiety attacks due to the stress of the situation. My biggest fear is him fighting me foe the kids. ( he said he wouldn't if I did diss)They are all I will have left. He is keeping the house and so forth. I do not have a career and have to start over. I may be able to rent a house from my brother if everything works out financially. Hey, I might even get to keep the dog.
Thanks for the support,
Ronni

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still married/almost 15 yr.
2 kids 10 & 8/ both girls.
1 dog/lab

Ronni, You and your girls are on my prayer list.

God has you in His hand, and He will not drop you; He will never leave you or forsake you. Rely on Him and He will see you through this.

Your situation is similar to many of ours; you are not alone.

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married 30 years; daughter #1 + grandson;
daughter #2 + granddaughter; 1 big dog; various cats

I'd rather be at the beach